adjective: 1) Belonging to the highest rank or class; 2)
Formal, refined, and restrained in style; 3) Simple and harmonious; elegant; 4) Having historical or literary associations;
1) A superior or unusual example of its kind; 2) An artist, author, or
work generally considered to be of the highest rank or excellence,
especially one of enduring significance; 3) A work recognized as definitive in its field.
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth
Edition, copyright © 2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company
“…a fetish is perhaps best summed up by French philosopher Michel Leiris, who calls it an ‘objectified form of our desire.’” - Victoria Tillman
Definition: The Scene: the BDSM (bondage, discipline,
Definition: scene: The expression of the Art of Play for the enjoyment of all participants (and voyeurs)
Definition: Play: Mental, physical, emotional articulation of Fetish appreciation between consenting parties (“Players”)
the appreciation of the passion of power-at-play (power
creatively expressed in various forms of presentation) ~ whether you
feel the passion in role play (e.g., dominance and submission), the
wearing of particular articles of clothing, sensual stimulation (touch,
taste, smell, visual, auditory), and/or in a variety of experiences
designed to allow you to get in touch with that deepest part of
yourself that makes life
feel exciting, vibrant, worth living, complete.
This appreciation is demonstrated by your
expression of the best inside of you, which you share with
the utmost respect for the Players in the Scene.
respect is honed by proper education, preparation and presentation –
whether in person, online, by email, etc. Technology offers
everyone the opportunity to become educated; you must simply take the
time to research for your comfort and to prevent offensive behavior.
respect is reciprocated, as like attracts like, and all those who
participate on a
ClassicFetish™ level have tremendous self-respect,
which is why We are easily able to give respect to others.
approach the practice of
Fetish as Therapeutic Art, which enables all involved to rise to a higher level of being.
rise above and beyond the sexual limitations of mainstream
comprehension into true works of Art and Beauty for those involved and
those observing. It is here that the Euphoria of Fetish is
experienced, shared and cultivated. A deep sense of contentment
ClassicFetishists™ enjoy the Scene as part of Our lifestyles; not just for
kinks, kicks or cash. We understand that Our Fetishes are
evolutionary, life-affirming conventions and We express Our Fetish Arts
in this way. Through Fetish, We are free to be Our best as
artists, healers, and nurturers.
Remember the key word is
which connotes respect, an open-mind, and a willingness to play by the
rules. When attending a
Event, it is important to
keep these concepts in mind:
Attend an event in appropriate attire.
Wearing street clothes to a Fetish party shows that you do not respect
the concept of the party, the hosts, or the guests. The purpose
of a Fetish party is for people to have a non-judgmental space to wear
their Fetish attire and share their Fetishes with other
attendees. If you do not wish to participate in the theme, do not
Respect another’s role. It is inappropriate for:
a Dominant to attempt to “sub” another Dominant. This shows a great insecurity and a lack of self-control;
submissive to attempt to top-from-the-bottom. This is a common
problem for “wannabes” who are enthralled by the concept of submission,
but offer nothing to deserve such an honor by a Dominant;
a Dominant to give orders to another’s sub. One must always respect another’s property.
actions abound in the myriad of “bad behavior” parties, which is why We
distinguish ClassicFetish™ soirees from other events.
Save your roles for your scenes.
When conversing with others, it is polite to use their titles, but
don’t get carried away with your Fetish Fantasy Role. We are all
real people who appreciate real people.
Disagreements are handled in private.
If you find yourself in a nasty situation, remove yourself from the
area. It is inappropriate for you to make a scene that is not of
Fetish Art quality.
Come to the Event to share your best. When everyone upholds this principle, the Event is a truly rewarding experience and a tremendous success!
you enter into the
world, your behavior is expected to
be of the highest quality, no matter what your role is. In other
words, always take the high road.
The opinions expressed above by
The Mistress Didi*
are shared by a distinctive group of Fetish enthusiasts who desire to reform the public perception of Fetish to its rightful place of love, respect and consideration.
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